There Is No Rule Book

Enjoy life and the beauty that surrounds it. Picture Credit:  Ruby Middleton

Enjoy life and the beauty that surrounds it.
Picture Credit: Ruby Middleton

There is no rule book on how to live your life.  There is no manual out in this world that gives you step by step instructions on the complexities of life.  We learn something new about ourselves everyday, but we learn through trial and error.

We learn through experiences.

We learn by living our lives, knowing that we will make mistakes along the way and that our mistakes will become valuable lessons.

We become so afraid of taking chances that we miss golden opportunities everyday.  Why hold yourself back?  Why keep yourself away from the best that life can offer you?  We wake up to lists, plans, itineraries, but what is wrong with waking up and letting life happen?  Wake up one day and say, “I am not going to live today with a plan to follow.  Today, I will enjoy each minute and let life happen.”  You may surprise yourself at what you can accomplish and that day may turn out to be one of the most epic days of your life.

There is no rule book on how to live your life.  Do not limit yourself from the possibilities that await you.  Take one day at a time, enjoy each day as much as possible and live without any regrets.

We only have one life – do not waste it.

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Mornings Are Unacceptable (and “Twins” Are Not What You Think They Are)

The doors that holds me in captivity . . . or is the gateway to my financial freedom?  You can see the bad and good in everything.Picture credit:  Ruby Middleton

The doors that hold me in captivity . . . or are they the gateway to my dreams? You can see the bad and good in everything.
Picture credit: Ruby Middleton

Dear Friends,

Oh!  Today was rough.  Going to work 30 minutes early is, what I would call, unacceptable.  Coming into work at 8:30 a.m. is not a big deal to me.  I am usually on time and ready for the day to start.  Coming in at 8 . . . Totally. Different. Story.  A thirty minute difference sounds minuscule and for most, it not something to fret about.  You go in, do your job, then send your happy butt back home.  Not this girl.  This girl has major, catastrophic issues when it comes to getting to work at 8:00 a.m.  The world spins and fire shoots out from the ground, signaling the end of times.  The sun disappears and darkness engulfs us all.  We are going to die.

Ok – it’s not that bad, but it sure does feel like it.  I feel hungover, even though not a bit of alcohol has touched my tongue.  My head pounds and I stagger from the pure exhaustion from rushing to get ready for work.  My eyes can’t stay open, which then results in me running into a wall, which then causes the ultimate headache of all time.  Yeah – morning person I am not.

Walking the Halls  Picture Credit:  Ruby Middleton

Walking the Halls
Picture Credit: Ruby Middleton

So, I plan on heading to bed early tonight.  I think the whole staying up until midnight watching YouTube videos may have been a major factor in my extreme grumpiness this morning.  Nope – it’s me not being a morning person, in addition to the late night Youtube watching.  The funny part is I remember back in high school, I could stay up all night long reading a book and not miss a beat when I had to wake up an hour after I fell asleep.  Can’t do that now – I wouldn’t wake up in time and then, I would be jobless.  Ugh – I wanna be young again!!!!

Before I head out, I need to make a minor correction.  A friend of mine sent me a text message last night, shortly after I posted my blog entry.  This is what it said:

Read your blog and was wondering why you were wishing your breasts a happy birthday? Then, I realized you were talking about your friends . . . muahahahaha

To clear things up:  When I said Happy Birthday to my Twins, I was not referring to the ones attached to my body.  I was speaking of my friends . . . who are twins.  I call them my twins because they are my friends.  So, twins do not mean boobies!  It did give me a good laugh.  To my friend:  you are such a pervert!  To anyone else who thought this:  Shame on you!  You are perverts too . . . but you’re still my friends.

Sweet dreams, everyone!

Love always,

Rubes

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New Experiences: My Inner Artist Came Out To Play (And a Happy Birthday to My Twins!)

Hello Friends,

My inner artist came out to play this weekend and we had a blast.  Look at my beautiful painting!  Isn’t it the most majestic thing you have ever laid your eyes upon?  Go ahead – marvel at the beauty that awaits you.  Go on . . . scroll down . . .

My Butterfly!Picture Credit:  Ruby Middleton

My Butterfly!
Picture Credit: Ruby Middleton

Hahaha!  Did you really think you were going to see a masterpiece?  Well, it may not be the best painting in the world, but for me, it is one of the most amazing things I have ever done.

My friends and I went to Wine and Design, located in the West Ashley area in Charleston, SC.  I did not know what to expect because this was my first time there.  Wine and Design is an art studio where you choose the desired painting (by looking at the calendar they have on the website) you want to recreate and register for that night.  When you get there, you will receive step by step instructions on how to paint the picture of the night, while sipping on the delicious alcoholic drink  you decide to bring with you (if you decide to bring something).  They provide all the materials for you – the canvas, paints, glasses for your drink.  All you need to bring is your drink (and/or snack), and of course, yourself.

Wine and Design - West AshleyPicture Credit:  Lili Ortiz

Wine and Design – West Ashley
Picture Credit: Lili Ortiz

The night my friends picked was called Open Studio.  Here, you get to choose the painting you want to recreate, and then, you are basically on your own.  The instructors walk around and assist you if you need any help, but this is mainly all you.  You can also change the colors of the painting you want to recreate.  To sum it all up, you go and have fun being a kid again.

My best friend, Lili, and her twin sister wanted to do this for their birthday and I am glad for this choice.  Who would have known how fun painting would be?  Well, I guess most of you already knew that, but this is coming from a girl who really does not get out much.  It was a new experience for me and I am definitely planning to do again.

I wanted to write about this on Saturday, but after I arrived home, my bed became more important to me.

Did you enjoy your weekend?  If so, what did you do?

Monday is officially over guys!  Take care and I will see you tomorrow!

Love Always,

Rubes

Wine and Design Website:  http://wineanddesignus.com/WestAshley.html  –>There are other locations you can choose from, but I wanted to represent the one I went to :-)  If you come to Charleston, check it out!

To my friends:  HAPPY BIRTHDAY, LILI AND YVETTE!  You two are amazing and I am happy to have you in my life :-)

Lili and I

Lili (My PPR) and I
Picture Credit – Lili Ortiz

Yvette (Sunshine) and I

Yvette (Sunshine) and I
Picture Credit: Ruby Middleton

 

 

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The Waiting Room Chronicles

Hello Friends,

Nothing much to report this way, except it was a busy day at work. The day went by fast and before I knew it, I was heading to the lung specialist for my 3 p.m. appointment.

While sitting in the waiting room, my mind starting thinking about when I was officially diagnosed with Lupus and End Stage Renal Disease (another way of saying complete kidney failure) , and I must say that out of all this time, the one thing I wished I had done was document (in writing and pictures) everything I was going through. So much happened during those years, and it would have been interesting to go back and read how I felt going through each stage of my disease. I would have had so much to talk about: being on dialysis (peritoneal and hemodialysis) , the seizures, waking up from a coma, how it felt knowing my kidneys would never work again, the process of getting on the transplant list, the depressing times at the dialysis clinic, losing my sister in the process of going through all that, and the list goes on and on. Maybe one of these days, I will sit down and try my best to write down everything I can remember. Knowing my story could possibly help someone else down the road and encourage them not to ever give up is a dream I have held on to for a very long time.

I guess that is why I took out my phone and started taking pictures of what was around me. My want to document everything got the best of me, and even though there was not much to look at, I still wanted to have something to remember the day. Note to self: People will look at you strange if you start taking pictures of random things around you. I take it they were not used to someone just taking pictures for the fun of it. Oh well.

I was looking out the window and wanted to get a unique picture of the windows and the cars outside. My idea was to get different angles, but the stares from people stopped me. Lesson #1: become more confident about taking pictures . . . and not care what those around me are thinking of me.

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Here’s a pic of my Blueberry/Tardis, waiting for me to make my escape (You get it? It’s a Ford Escape, waiting for me to make my escape. Funny, eh? No. *Sigh* – Good thing I never went towards the comedy career path).

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Anyone who has ever had a doctor’s appointment or has ever stayed in a hospital should know what this is. You hear it coming down the hallway, it’s wheels squeaking to announce its arrival. We all love it when are arms are squeezed so tight, it feels like the blood is going to burst right through your skin. Every time I hear or see one of these, it reminds of those nights in the hospital when the nurses would come once an hour to check my vitals. Really? Once an hour? I thought the whole point of being in the hospital was to get better and REST. That is kind of hard to do when someone comes into your room at 3 a.m., and then squeezes the life out of your arm. Ahh – good times.

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The appointment went well. All it did was reaffirm what I already knew – I have asthma. Now I can add that to the list of ailments that plague me on a daily basis (asthma, anemia, Lupus . . . yeah, that list can go on forever too, but it’s ok).

The good news of all of this? I am still happy to be alive :-)

No walking was done today – I had a rough two days and I decided to rest (and my definition of rest was playing Sims 3 University Life for about 3 hours. It was worth it). My miles will be caught up by the end of the week.

Tomorrow is Thursday, which means the countdown for the weekend will begin. Take care, my friends.

Love Always,

Rubes

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Living Life Through The Lens

Hey Everyone,

Today was . . . interesting.  My morning did not go well, and I ended up coming home from work.  Slept most of the day, and now, I am feeling a bit better.  I just finished walking my mile for today, which now brings me up to 2.46 miles.  Not far, but it’s something, right?

I wanted to do something a little different today, because I feel like I have been neglecting my photos.  Photography is something I still want to improve my skills in, and that will not happen if time is not put aside for practicing.  While I was looking through some of my photos to show you all today, a thought came to me about the way we see our lives.

We take a lot of pictures with our phones.  It’s almost unheard of these days of anyone having a phone without a camera.  Each day, we feel the need to document our surroundings, afraid of missing something or forgetting the best thing that happened that day.  Our phones/cameras have become our lifeline and it is how we communicate with others.  An example would be Instagram.  Everything we do is being photographed, either by us or by someone else.  Life is being told through pictures, not words.  It is very obvious – we live our lives through the lens of our cameras.

I love taking pictures with my phone.  Being able to be creative with such a tiny little instrument like my phone has been an amazing experience.  The apps make it worthwhile too because you can really be artistic with your photos.  While taking my photography courses, I was learning how to use my SLR, but at the same time, I was able to use those same techniques with my phone.

Most of the pictures you see on this blog are taken with my iPhone 4 and I usually use the Camera+ app for editing.  With these following pictures, I wanted to play around with lighting and shooting from different angles.  I think these came out kind of cool.

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I hope you like the pics :-)

Happy Tuesday afternoon, evening, or Wednesday morning to you all!

Love Always,

Rubes

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We All Have To Start Somewhere – Day 1

Dear Friends,

Oh my goodness – today has started off being one of those “if I could find a bridge to jump off from, I would so do it right now to get away from this mess” kind of days!  Let’s say, if you are a girl (yeah, this does not apply to you men, at all . . . and I hate you for that) you know about the little friend we have that comes around once a month to wreck havoc on our lives and plans.  Some days, I REALLY despise being a girl.  Guys really do not understand how easy they have it sometimes :-(   I mean, yeah, it maybe hard on the guy when his wife, girlfriend, mother, sister, etc is in a really bad mood, but the one thing guys can do that girls can’t is walk away.  If they don’t want to deal with the mood swings, they can just walk away.  If they don’t want to deal with the cravings, they can just walk away.  Girls?  Nope, no walking away at all.  UGH!

Can you tell I am just a little grumpy today?  So irritating . . . and I have absolutely no chocolate near me at all.  I think I will go cry now.

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It is currently 9 p.m. and I am curled up in bed.  The pain became too excruciating when I got home, and I went straight to bed to take a nap.  Still, I am determined to walk this mile no matter what.

*Doesn’t move out of bed*

I am getting up, I promise.

*Can hear someone mumbling*

What did you say?

*Listens to that person screaming*

Hey – don’t yell at me!  I AM GETTING UP!

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I did my mile!  Not the fastest mile at all, but I did it.  All this did was show me how out of shape I am in.  At least I did it!  Here are the results:

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Like I said, not the best.  At the end of the month, it’s going to be fun to see how far I have come.   Are any of you walking too?  Don’t forget to let me know.

Do you remember when I said I would add at least one fact or story to each post?  Here is your first fact of the month:

Fact:  Did you know that up to 25 different organs and tissues can be donated through transplantation?  Click on this the link to a diagram of the different organs and tissues that can be donated.  I am getting some of these facts from the Lifepoint website (a place I did my internship when I was in college.  It was such a great experience for me, especially as a transplant recipient.  I will tell you all about Lifepoint in a post this month).

There is more I would like to type to you right now, but I need to take a shower and head to bed.  Take care and I will see you tomorrow!

Love Always,

Rubes

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Mini-Project: April 2013

Dear Amigos/Amigas,

I have my mini-project ready to share with you!  The Mini-Project for April 2013 is:

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Walk to Donate Life

  • Why:  April is National Donate Life Month.
  • Where:  On my treadmill at home or at the gym, and in parks in the surrounding area (Charleston)

  • What Will Happen:  At the end of the month, after I walk my last mile, I will donate $100.00 to Donate Life South Carolina.  In addition to that, I will randomly choose one of my readers/supporters (from any of the likes or comments on any of my posts from the month of April) and donate $50.00 to their choice of charity (I’m sorry that is all I can donate – if I could, I would donate so much more!  It’s what I can afford right now, but I hope I will be able to donate more in the future!  This is a good start, I think)

  • How many miles:  If I walk one mile a day, then that will be a total of 30 miles.  I think we should stick to that.  I almost want to say 40, but I am not that confident for that.   Oh wait – I have Relay for Life on April 26th.  Okay – let’s say 40 miles because I know I will be walking a lot on that night!

  • Dates:  Monday, April 1st – Tuesday, April 30th
  • What Do You Need to Do:  Be my support!

Photo Credit:  LifePointhttp://www.lifepoint-sc.org/

Photo Credit: LifePoint
http://www.lifepoint-sc.org/

This is something I have been wanting to do for a while and figured this year would be great.  Yes, 40 miles in a month is not a lot, but it is for me!  The most walking I have been doing is at work (and trust me, that is not enough).  By the time I get home, the last thing I want to do is any activities that requires my body to move.  The only thing that matters is I am getting off my butt and doing something!

I will track my progress using the Nike+ app on my phone.  I have the Nike thingy you put in your shoe that collects all the data and sends it to the app.  I will screen cap the results and post them.  You can hold me accountable for my actions and make sure I keep to my promise.

If you would like to join me in this, then do so!  I would love to have others join me on this project.  Most of you are probably in better shape than me, so if you aspire to do more than 40 miles for the month, go for it!  It will be up to you if you want to donate to the winner’s choice of charity or to Donate Life SC, but that is not a requirement.  That decision will be all up to you.  If you do donate, please let me know so I can mention you in my post.  I want people to be recognized for their good deeds!  Also, even if you do not donate and you just want to walk, inform me of that too!!

With each update of my status, I will either add a fact about organ, eye, and tissue donation or write about something I went through during the process of my kidney transplant.

I have written a bit about my transplant (here and here), but now, I can do something to give back.  I am so excited about this!  I am kind of nervous because this is the first time I have done this type of thing on my own.

Take care and I will see you tomorrow for Day #1!

Love Always,

Rubes

P.S. – if you would like to send me any well wishes or letters, you can send them to:

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